Is this necessary?
19/05/2025: “What is the message today?”
And the answer that came was a reminder to place further awareness on the question and concept that has been with me for a period of time, “is this necessary”? Leading to a broader questioning of “what is necessary?”
Necessary in regard to what? It depends on each person, their values, dreams, desires, and what he or she prioritizes in this period – brought down into this moment – of their life. And in this specific case, it is in regard to being present and being in an optimal state. In regard to my chosen path and what I want out of life. Learning to discern between what thoughts distracts me and keeps me stuck and what serves me and brings me forth and up.
With that said, other ways to ask myself the question is, “does this serve my overall health and wealth?” – “does this serve my mental capacity and energetic state?” – “does this serve the quality of my life?” – “Does this bring me closer to creating something of value which serves others as well as myself?” And if it is a YES to the question, there is a YES to the action. And if it doesn’t aid and benefit, it is a NO.
Asking. Feeling. Allowing. Obeying.
Knowing on a larger scheme of things, that the more vital I am, the higher my capacity is, and more I can give, do, add, and share. And the more I can BE.
The better of I am, the better of my surroundings are –> As within as without.
With this I remember that each train of thought takes space on the track, blocking the potential presence of another. If I keep on thinking about that one thing, I am not placing my conscious attention – my creative and creational potential – on this other thing which is aligned with my intention.
“Blocking Myself”
Yesterday and early today (written on the 19th of May) I was overtaken by “unnecessary thoughts” – or rather, I allowed them to go on. Obsessively trying to find the “perfect” answer. And since I didn’t know, the questions, alternatives, and comparisons kept on reappearing and taking up mental space – i.e. taking the space from important and necessary thoughts (in regard to what I want).
With this I was allowing a situation that cried for a closure to take my presence and attention, instead of just giving it my full attention in order to solve the issue so that it could be set free, releasing myself from the concerns in order to continue my day with flow.
I am observing how much mental energy and potential went into wondering, planning and calculating in order to find the “best solution”. Trying to account for all things to arrive at the “best” and “most perfect” alternative.
On one side I can see how unnecessary this is and how I am wasting my potential in the details and trying to figure out these “small” things instead of focusing my thoughts and potential towards what I want to create and move towards.
On another level I can see that it was necessary and that my attention kept on being drawn to the problem ahead. Because I hadn’t taken a decision and – based on my basic survival needs – a decision needed to be made. And thus as I hadn’t taken a decision, things was uncertain, and it was necessary to think unnecessarily much. Does that make sense?
I am seeing how overthinking keeps me stuck in a route and how energy flow, life, and possibilities opens up as the decision is being taken, accepted, and acted upon. i.e. the problem disappears and the space of opportunities and possibilities open up.
This is something I am working on. To learn to direct my thoughts and creative potential and not waste it away. And this experience is part of the class. Part of the learning. Part of the growth.
It is good to not take rash decisions. It has its place to weigh the pros and cons, assume an informed decision and move ahead with an awareness of the potential outcomes. But to an extent. Not too much and not to little. Only what is necessary 😊
Instead of having something wobble in the periphery of my awareness and in the back of my mind I am learning that it may serve to simply sit down and concentrate my attention on the issue at hand. To solve the situation and close that chapter so that my attention may be fully and consciously directed towards the next endeavour and present moment.
Am I the Director of My Life or am I Being Directed?
Either I chose the thoughts and the direction of my life, or the thoughts unconsciously plays and defines my place.
And what is the ultimate cost, all things considered?
Mulling around and thinking back and forth might save me a few bucks in the end but what did it cost in time and energy during that period? And beyond that, what could I have focused on instead? What could I have done, enjoyed, learned, or created?
I cannot really say, because I was stuck in thought, trapped with a problem that I didn’t solve until very late.
But it was necessary. Because it helped me to see how unnecessary it was and is to misplace my thoughts and waste my attention (i.e. money in the bank). Which brings me back to the point that,
“Things are necessary until they are not necessary and more.”
Just because it was necessary doesn’t mean that it always will be. In fact, this concept is in a constant flux and flow and nothing is necessary forever. For example, I stink, and I feel dull, so a shower is necessary to lift my spirit and remove the stench. But once I have showered it is not necessary any longer, because it has been done and I am clean. It is a very simple metaphor but when I phrase and view it like this, it is so easy to see. That “all things have its time, and things are necessary until they are not anymore”. Not even breathing. Only as long as we are still here in this body and flesh. But once we transcend, not even that is necessary.
This of course is another layer of the concept and way of seeing things. On a closer call related to our daily life this question may guide us in each moment. Of what to say or do. In regard to our values, who we want to be, and what effect we want to create.
Placing awareness before we buy a thing, ask a thing, consume a thing, or do a thing. We can allow it to linger in the pause in between, “is this necessary?” “does this serve?” “what will it cost and what will it create?”
For example, I might feel the urge to “speak my truth” or “share my feelings”, and I believe it is important that we allow ourselves that. And there are definitely moments for that! But first we may ask ourselves, “is this necessary?” with the overall sense and premonition of what it may create. Considering the potential consequences in regard to my inner world as well as other people and my surroundings before I unconsciously let go.
“If something keeps on reappearing it might be for a reason.”
When I am observing the inner dialogue that is occurring “in the back of my mind” I am creating a distance between myself and the thoughts, and as such I am becoming more self-aware. And as I am not unconsciously participating in this dialogue I can begin to notice patterns and other layers as I before could not. And I am becoming aware of what takes my attention and where my focus is allocated.
I am learning that if the same scenario and inner dialogue scenario keeps on reappearing it is for a reason. There is something there. Something is telling me something and apparently I am not listening because it keeps on happening.
And so… again… it is necessary until it is not necessary any longer…
I need to retake the class until I get the message, learn the lessons, and pass the test. And if I want to continue and move on, advance and evolve, I better “pay attention” to what is said and learn to “listen in between the lines”.
I am learning to recognize when thought patterns are obsessively reoccurring. And I am becoming more and more aware of the inner dialogue and what it is creating.
Something is there and is calling for closure. It is calling for attention and so I direct it there and deal with what is in front of me. I close that chapter of the day so that the energetic channels may unblock and inspiration again yet flow.
If there is a rock on my path I need to remove it, climb over it, or go around it. It is necessary, because as long as I don’t I will not move ahead.
