Attuning to Our True North
Our lives unfold along a spectrum on which we are constantly changing position. At one end, we have no say in the matter. At the other, we stand firmly at the rudder, steering with intention and direction. With discernment of thought, we are learning to navigate between these poles — fluctuating between being conscious co-creators of our reality, and passively leaving it up to chance.
To much control makes our lives rigid and blocks the spirtual purpose to unfold, however, living without direction and aspirations takes us completely out of the equation.
We don’t have to be victims of circumstance. We have the power to define our reality — but it requires willingness and conscious choice. It requires discernment of thought.
What world do you want to live in, and who do you want to be within it?
What values do you want to represent? What example do you want to set?
These questions are easy to ask, but when we allow ourselves to feel them deeply, we are opening doorways within. Meditating and reflecting on the answers shine light on dormant aspects of our being, and we are setting the compass towards our true north.
Aligning with our nature and higher calling sets us up to make decisions out of self-love, which then radiates from us through our way of being.
In other words, the more we become aware of who we genuinely want to be — and that our state of being shapes our surroundings — the more we will think, speak, and act in loving ways aligned with that.
Discernment of Thoughts
This process leads us into discernment of thoughts, for the more we focus on living well, aligned with our nature, the more important our choices become. And, as you already know, on one level or another, our choices, actions, and behaviors originate in thought and our emotional response to those thoughts.
Suddenly, our lives — our health and our wealth — matter more, because we are now living for something beyond our small selves. We must learn to discern what serves and what does not, for the greater good of all.
Cause and Effect — The Weight of Karma
At one point in my life, I didn’t pay any attention to this. I had no clue how vital the numerous small decisions I made each day were. I didn’t know the power of thoughts and how they defined my choices and actions.
Moreover, I wasn’t aware of the karma I was creating for myself through my unconscious behaviors — one unhealthy choice after another. My actions were stacking up, and I’ve been learning about cause and effect the hard way. Perhaps you will too, but hopefully you will take note and pay attention before you break your back — like I did.
“Remembering what world we want to live in and what we want to see more of guides us to live it, and the more we live it, the more we see it, and the more it becomes a reality.”
What Is Discernment?
Discernment is the ability to clearly see and determine what serves us and what does not. At its root, to “discriminate” means to distinguish — to pick apart and recognize the difference between what heals and what hurts us, what makes us more holy and what separates us from our source.
The Call for Quality
Take old age as an example. As everything affects us more, the call for quality has never been greater. We don’t just walk “for the sake of it” — we walk, because otherwise we fall. We exercise or we deteriorate. We don’t eat junk because our bodies respond immediately.
I wasn’t so concerned with my sleeping patterns in my younger days; now it is one of my main pillars of well-being. Not only the hours, but more so the quality of rest. Before, I didn’t really notice the effects; now it is a prerequisite for my mental and physical well-being — the quality of my days and weeks.
As we are becoming increasingly sensitive, it becomes easier to discern what heals and what hurts, because everything is brought to its peak. However, we don’t have to wait until we break our backs or walk into the wall before we wake up.
We all have our own path to walk and our own mistakes we need to learn from. We all have distinct values, qualities, and unique ways of relating to life. Yet, avoid the mistakes of others can save us a great deal of effort, time, pain, and suffering — this is wisdom on another level.
So here I am, sharing my truth and the lessons from my mistakes — a reminder to myself and a guide for those on a similar path.
Discernment of Thoughts: Practice Makes Perfect
This is no small task. Our thoughts, impulses, and desires often blur together, and learning to discern between the useful and the harmful is a lifelong practice.
The process of discernment begins with intention. With our willingness to be, do, and live well, we set the stage for the practice. Life always asks us to pause, reflect, and consciously decide which thoughts to follow and which to let go of — and with intention, we become open, receptive, and aware.
Learning to discern is to become more sensitive, and as we pay more attention, our sense of discernment grows. Through practice, we develop the ability to taste the bitterness of what does not serve. Like a muscle, our discernment evolves.
It is through living the experience and feeling the emotions that our awareness expands. Ask yourself:
· What’s your state of being before an action?
· How do you feel during the experience?
· And what emotions and sensations arise afterwards?
Feel everything without judgment, without blocking anything out. This is where true wisdom can arise. As long as we are covering one eye, we are not seeing the full picture. Dare to see, and the truth shall be revealed.
Because sometimes an action gives us a rush in the moment, only to demand a higher price later.
Is it really worth it then? Does it truly benefit us when the cost outweighs the temporary value or pleasure we received?
Unconscious Patterns and Daily Habits
These habits and patterns can be anything at all. Pay attention to how things make you feel now. Let go of nostalgia because even if it was the love of your life, what matters is what serves you today.
It can be our attitude toward life. For example, competition and our drive to win may have brought us forward, but suddenly, at a point, they hurt us rather than serve.
It may be a favorite food that no longer tastes the same, or the side effects of alcohol and smoking that have become too strong.
It might be how or when we sleep, what we watch and listen to, or even relationships we realize drain us rather than fuel us.
Or it might be a victim mindset that somehow gave us comfort, but now limits us to such a degree that we simply have to let it go?
These are examples from my own experience, but each of us has unique values and preferences. There is no one-size-fits-all.
You do you. Still, as life keeps changing, some things are bound to become outdated.
Personal Reflection:
· What habits or patterns do you carry out without a second thought?
· How are they playing out in your life, today?
· What things in your life take more than they give?
· What are you ready to let go of?
Allowing these reflections to sink in, we continue fresh into the next sequence— Cause and Effect: Discernment in Action
